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I'm nearly 65yrs and I have found once I moved through the menopause experience of my 50s with all the challenging symptoms and I did think "well that's it, my sex life is over" I have found in my 60s my sexuality is now alive and evolving. For me it's not about the sex act anymore, but the energy. I am exploring my own body and the sense of the divine occupying that space. It's erotic, exotic, primitive and divine all at the same time. Perhaps today you would use the word 'wild'. I'm grateful to be not shutting down and listening to popular culture, but rather following my own thread and finding my sexuality and pleasure expands and deepens to which I am truly grateful. And for a partner that is willing to find his way with this ride that the feminine power is leading. He sent me this article and it's wonderful that you are writing about this for other women, and men, to read, explore and awaken too.

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Hi Melinda, Thanks so much for stopping to take a moment to comment here. I appreciate it! And I love how your partner sent this to you :) I love what you wrote here:

"I'm grateful to be not shutting down and listening to popular culture, but rather following my own thread and finding my sexuality and pleasure expands and deepens to which I am truly grateful."

I hope this for all women. Big love!

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My forty-one year old self needed to hear this today: “You start to realize on a much deeper level how spectacular your body is, how beautiful it is, how powerful it is, and, at the same time, so soft and tender. And you feel something deeper being whispered through your flesh—this sense that it will be gone one day.” It’s what I want my two girls to know, and I pray to embody it like your radiant 60-year-old client. 🙏❤️

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I’m so glad that touched you. 💓

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a sensually free and comfortable woman is a happy woman. and age doesn't matter.

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Exactly! Thank you Lisa 💓🙏🏼

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Gorgeous piece! Read this during some downtime at work and it inspired me to slowly apply some body oil, take deep breaths, and move my body. Thank you. 🫶✨

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Thank you! And I am so glad. I am going to do a part two for paid subscribers with more practicals. Working on that next. But the things you mentioned are helpful. Small things! xo

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Woosh! Really needed to read this. Very much my current experience!

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I’m so glad to hear! Part 2 coming tomorrow 💓

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Wow! Actually so reassuring to read that, at age 42 currently, I'm not destined to become a dried up, dusty old raisin at some unknown point in the not-too-distant future! Definitely not feeling anywhere near ready for that... thanks for writing this x

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The timing is so unique to each woman- also climbing out from under the conditioning is a thing, and knowing it’s possible too, awareness is movement 🌹

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Am I experiencing midlife? no. Did I read and love every minute of this? yes.

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Much of this truly applies to all of us! Thanks for saying hi.

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Appreciate this celebration of 40+ and erotically more alive. It’s wild how different I feel

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I love hearing that @Sarina Zoe - and love discovering your work

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Thanks Alexandra 💜

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This is powerful and lovely and thank you! I see you are trauma informed, and wondering if that will come into play in your Alchemy series upcoming?

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You are welcome. Re: Alchemy of Love- yes. We won’t be going into or processing traumas in the group, but acknowledging how they impact our ability to open again, to love, to relate, and also working with the defenses and parts we have acquired in relation to the trauma and how to be with them and open in a new way. I hope that answers that for you. I’m happy to connect via email also more on this. 💓

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This is such a beautiful piece, love love love everything you have expressed here x

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Thank you so much Naomi. I’m glad it resonated with you!

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Yes. So important to spread this message. I think whether 20, 40 or 85, so much of inhabiting our sexuality starts with carving out the space, and often bravery, to know and cherish ourselves.

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I feel this so much.

At 42 I feel more alive, embodied and sensual than ever before in my life. More at home in my body and being, delighting in my unique essence. 💫

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Beautiful ♥️ I’m 38 with a 20 month old, 20+ lbs heavier than when I became pregnant, and it’s so hard to feel sexy or beautiful like I used to when I was the slim maiden

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Obsessed with this!

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Beautiful! Thank you! 🐍

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