The Relaxed Mother Experiment
A new era of womanhood + a practice
I am experimenting with being a relaxed woman in my joy and pleasure as a mother.
I am experimenting feeling safe in my body as my first practice.
I am experimenting with my second job being a loving safe presence with my daughter.
I am experimenting with being a mother who cries and gets angry and sad sometimes in front of her child, and doesn’t repress, but doesn’t spew, and comes back to safe grounded presence in front of her daughter.
I am experimenting with being a mother who makes a great deal of abundance without hustling or pushing.
I am experimenting with being a mother who does not complain.
I am experimenting with being a mother who does not try to control my partner.
I am experimenting with receiving my partner’s financial support as a gift.
I am experimenting with being frank, direct, and not sugar coating my thoughts, feelings, and opinions to people I love.
I am experimenting with letting go quickly, without a grand show.
I am experimenting with being a mother who is in love with my partner, and turned on by him, and doesn’t leave that out of our home environment, but has healthy boundaries about it.
I am experimenting with being a mother who prioritizes a relaxed nervous system and pleasure and safety and fun and play and creativity.
I am experimenting with being a mother who runs a business, but does not spend a ton of time tethered to my phone.
I am experiencing with being a mother who has space for my creativity.
I am experimenting with being a mother who cooks for my family 1-3 x a day.
I am experimenting with being a mother who doesn’t give up self care and beauty and doesn’t call it vanity.
I am experimenting with letting love drive me more than achievement.
I am experimenting with devotion driving me over traditional success.
I am experimenting with putting to rest the lie I can “do it all” and not faking that to anyone, because I do not want to do it all, and I cannot do it all.
Feeling deep gratitude for this list and for your work Alexandra. I have been practicing talking with myself through a loving, kind, and compassionate voice during stressful moment (que my recent stressful moment: chasing my toddler in the store while making sure my other child does not break a nearby planter pot all while trying to order something). I said to myself “this is so hard Mary, please breathe and be kind with yourself, you are caring for so much right now.”
Beautiful, this feels so resonant. Thank you. I love the framework “I am experimenting with” it creates so much space fluidity and curiosity and articulates how to be in line with life itself emanating these qualities and experiments through us! Love love love